Penance: It’s Not What You Think

We conclude this rather lengthy lesson on the prayer of confession — the prayer of self-awareness and self-disclosure with this epilogue. If you’ve seen a movie where the the priest finishes confession with an assignment, “say ten hail-Mary’s,” or some such thing, you might have an idea about what penance is. But that’s not really […]

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Making it Safe

We can’t practice the prayer of self-awareness and self-disclosure we’ve been talking about these many weeks — without creating an environment that is safe for doing it. Today’s lesson is about the practical things we must have in place before this transformative prayer practice can work. Have a listen, Doug  

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Addiction: Not Just For Addicts

The 12-step tradition has hard-won wisdom to offer. Turns out, the same dynamics that govern addiction to alcohol, drugs, or the other well-known addictions — govern all of us. The way our brains balance themselves makes over-use of any tool, almost automatic. So, there is much the 12 steps can teach us. Today we talk about […]

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To know ourselves deeply, the questions we ask are really important. Fortunately, our tradition has left us a legacy to help us ask good questions. They are wrapped up in the ancient practice of confession — or as we’ve framed it, the prayer of self-awareness and self-disclosure. Have a listen, Doug  

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There are three steps in the ancient prayer of self-awareness and self-disclosure (confession). Step 1:  We pay attention to our negative emotions Step 2:  We undertake a thorough self-examination Step 3:  We engage forthright self-disclosure The second step is tough! It’s hard to see what is going on in us under the surface. Fortunately, our […]

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Einstein once said that we can’t solve our problems – with the same level of thinking that got us into them. This highlights the trouble we face when we come to the ancient prayer of self-examination – confession. The second step in this ancient prayer is to undertake a thorough self-examination. The problem is, our minds […]

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We work really hard to keep an internal equilibrium in the face of a deep internal sense of shame. Some of feel the shame, others feel the bravado of confidence we use to keep the shame at bay. Either way, like duck feet under the water, we’re paddling like crazy, to keep our lives moving […]

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We’re All In This Soup Together

We’re looking at two bedrock prerequisites behind the prayer of confession — the prayer of self-awareness and self-disclosure. Last time, we looked at the first: our worth or preciousness are non-negotiable givens. So, we don’t have to observe religious rituals to curry God’s favor. This time, we look at the second:  we’re all in this […]

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I Was Being Kind of an Ass…

But in my defense – I didn’t know I was. The story I was telling myself, is that I was being strong, and dependable, and sturdy. In the story I was telling myself, I was the good guy. My wife was the bad one. But I was wrong. And thank God, someone had taught me […]

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